I don’t usually have much comment on social media buzz feeds but I was so sad today to read that Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie are separating. I’m not one who wants to buy into Hollywood myths and illusions and these can be very powerful. At the same time I am sure this news is triggering my own sadness at how often my own relationships have gone into the fire, never to be retrieved, resolved or healed. I found myself crying, it was just a spontaneous reaction from my gut and my heart too to the news.
I had a very powerful though gentle chiropractic session yesterday. It seems to have unlocked some deep feelings that I think get blocked with my mind. When I went to bed last night I read a chapter in my library book Emotional First Aid on rumination. It basically said that research shows that when we think on bad or painful feelings over and over again they become worse. We become more depressed and less able to move on from and let go of sadness, disappointment, anger and anguish. We can also turn neutral things into painful things.
I am not going to think too much on the split of Brad and Ange but I am aware this is triggering deep sadness over all the ways in which love fails. I am sure there is much more going on in their marriage than any of us will ever know. It is sad that in this world so often couples don’t make it, cannot work through their difficulties and come back into connection and that the love cannot last.
That said we have to do what is best for us and sometimes that requires of us tough decisions. We have to make the cut so that we can branch out and flower in a new direction. It is still sad though. I know everything is impermanent, life changes and we go through passes and endings. It would be just lovely to have though that for Brad and Ange the love and connection could have lasted.
Perhaps though this split is speaking of an important truth illusions are often revealed to be just that, and perhaps these two carried some powerful projections for a lot of their fans.
Emerging From The Dark Night 