The following excerpt from the Awakened Empath page on Facebook was posted by Leslie Bertrand. I have been shut down so often for crying and this speaks as to why. Some people are just too terrified to embrace their sadness and then its a double wound when they shut down yours.
When you tell someone to stop crying, you’re reacting to how uncomfortable YOU feel with THIER emotional expression.
If this resonates with you, perhaps explore why you are uncomfortable with tears. Do you cry? When and if you cry how do YOU feel? Do you feel relieved or ashamed?
Here are some things you can say to acknowledge their feelings and let them know you care and are trying to understand, not judge. ❤️
Its okay to be sad.
This is really hard for you.
I’m here with you.
Tell me about it.
I hear you.
That was really sad, scary, etc
I will help you work it out.
I hear that you need space. I want to be here for you. I’ll stay close so that you can find me when you are ready.
One of my most commented on and read posts involves understanding and healing the scapegoat with. I was moved to post this reply from the comments section on that post which addresses healing for those of us with high level empathy, sensitivity or emotionality. We may not always be accepted by the world at large, but we can find healing and acceptance deep within our own hearts.
I think that it is a journey to find belonging and ultimately we need know we belong to ourselves, regardless of others opinions, judgements, projections.. First we need to understand what happened to us, because due to process whereby we become scapegoated or exiled we can suffer from deep feelings of being too different, bad, difficult, wrong etc. If we internalise these beliefs we can suffer so much. But if we can come to see that it was the group, people or community who was in fact threatened in some way, we can come to understand that being on the outside may not have to be a curse, or the loneliest place and that we do have gifts to give. If we become identified with that role,we can remain a victim in our own mind and open to further victimisation. We have to come to know that our anger, sensitivity, dramatic self expression or whatever is okay and we can find channels outside the hurtful ones to express. At least that is my understanding and experience.