Why punishing authenic protest makes us co-dependent.

We often learn to deny how we really feel in childhood.. We can then turn into someone who helps in order not to feel our own pain or allow others to weather their own which may have resulted in destructive choices

Emerging From The Dark Night

I have a post on being instinct injured backed up in drafts I have been working on for some time and today reading through the chapter Recovering from Trauma Based Codependency in Pete Walker’s book that post came to mind when I was reading about the fawn-freeze reaction to parental invalidation of self assertion and legitimate protest of the child.  Walker deals in that chapter with how certain forms of punishment or silencing of protest contributes to learned helplessness..reading that I could not help but think of the description instinct injured, which is something Jungian therapist Clarissa Pinkola Estes dealt with a lot in her book Women Who Run With the Wolves and occurs to those of us whose valid needs may have lain unrecognised or been actively shamed or punished in childhood.

Fawn-freeze is one of several codependent sub types Walker explains in this chapter, those are the…

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"The religious naturalist is provisioned with tales of natural emergence that are, to my mind, far more magical than traditional miracles. Emergence is inherent in everything that is alive, allowing our yearning for supernatural miracles to be subsumed by our joy in the countless miracles that surround us." Ursula Goodenough How to describe oneself? People are a mystery and there is so much more to us than just our particular experiences or occupations. I could write down a list of attributes and they still might not paint a complete picture pf Deborah Louise and in any case it would not be the full truth of me. I would say that my purpose here on Wordpress is to express some of my random experiences, thoughts and feelings, to share about my particular journey and explore some subjects dear to my heart, such as emotional recovery, healing and astrology while posting up some of the prose/poems which are an outgrowth of my labours with life, love and relationships. If anything I write touches you I would be so pleased to hear for the purpose of reaching out and expressung ourselves is hopefully to connect with each other and find where our souls meet.

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