The awful power of the inner critic

Anyone who endured trauma ends up criticised from within and often turns the criticism out in narcissism, the following shows how and why, drawing on insights from Pete Walker

Emerging From The Dark Night

When parents do not provide a safe enough bonding and positive feedback, the child founders in anxiety and fear.  Many children appear to be hard wired to adapt to this endangering abandonment with perfectionism.

A prevailing climate of danger forces the child’s superego to over cultivate the various programs of perfectionism and endangerment listed below.  Once again, the superego is the part of the psyche that learns parental rules in order to gain their acceptance.

The inner critic is the superego gone bad.  The inner critic is the superego in overdrive desperately trying to win your parents’ approval.  When perfectionistic striving fails to win welcoming from your parent, the inner critic becomes increasingly hostile and caustic.  It festers into a virulent inner voice that increasingly manifests self hate, self disgust and self abandonment.  The inner critic blames you incessantly for your shortcomings that it imagines to be the cause of…

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One thought on “The awful power of the inner critic”

  1. We become, overly, critical, because we’d been, socialized to, and, it takes us, even longer, to unlearn this, and to, accept and love ourselves, fully, and, completely…

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