Narcissistic injury from youth can leave deep wounds and sore spots in the psyche. In order to heal and understand (without over shaming ourselves for so called ‘overly’ sensitive reactions is a source of ongoing work for some of us.) And often we just cannot expect those without this level of trauma to understand, sadly.
Reading my current book on men who suffer from borderline personality disorder Hard To Love I am being reminded of how early attachment or abandonment wounds leave us with a thin skin covering over a sore raw spot that can often be triggered by perceived threat of abandonment. At these times if we suffer from borderline wounds we may fly into a reactive rage rather than feel the soft, vulnerable spot that is being triggered deep inside.
Acting out rage is a reaction to the hurt, pain and fear that lives inside. We may not be fully conscious that we fear rejection because someone around us saw a part of us that may not be well formed or is a source of shame, youngness, pain, or fear for us. Often such reactive anger or rage is a response to having early abandonment experiences triggered or feeling we are not being valued or validated. When others only see the angry or…
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