An important post on the role of anger in healing childhood trauma.
It is hardly possible to recognise and heal the hurts of our childhood without experiencing some form of anger. Anger is the force of separation that will help us to say that things hurt, that what we experienced damaged us or was not enough. It is the force which when expressed in an empowered (as opposed to a disempowered or passive aggressive way) will help us to differentiate our true feelings from those that were imposed upon us in childhood. Our anger will help us to make a separation from the behaviours of others that violate and abuse us. Without experiencing the purpose of our anger we cannot connect to deeper feelings and set boundaries, we cannot grieve what was lost or absent and we cannot find freedom.
The expression of anger is problematic in our culture, however and learning to express anger from childhood cleanly and in such a way that it becomes a…
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I really struggle to find and feel anger. It’s something. That really frustrates me.
Do you think that is because your parents never allowed that feeling when you felt it?I see clean expression of anger as so problematic in so many families. Xo
Yeah my anger was definitely not welcome. And theirs was destructive.
Yep that’s pretty much the pattern..it really sucks 🤗🤗