Untwisting the twisted legacy of narcissistic injury.

This is a post from some years back but its a powerful one with insights I was gaining at the time into the legacy of narcissistic injury in my own life.

Emerging From The Dark Night

When our needs and true self or beingness are not met, mirrored, affirmed and integrated into our conscious awareness (ego) one of the consequences is that we begin to feel confused, empty, disoriented and twisted inside.

When we have had a narcissistic parent who was never valued and nurtured themselves we learn to connect to a false, unreal image of who we really are.  We find false ways of being in the world in order to navigate the minefield of living with a parent who does not allow us to have our own needs and requires us to reflect them perfectly.  Often this parent projects their rejected or repressed shadow qualities onto us which are despised.  This can lead us to be very confused.  We begin to feel bad for having real needs and feelings and then question the validity of what is being projected and distorted by our parent.


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"The religious naturalist is provisioned with tales of natural emergence that are, to my mind, far more magical than traditional miracles. Emergence is inherent in everything that is alive, allowing our yearning for supernatural miracles to be subsumed by our joy in the countless miracles that surround us." Ursula Goodenough How to describe oneself? People are a mystery and there is so much more to us than just our particular experiences or occupations. I could write down a list of attributes and they still might not paint a complete picture pf Deborah Louise and in any case it would not be the full truth of me. I would say that my purpose here on Wordpress is to express some of my random experiences, thoughts and feelings, to share about my particular journey and explore some subjects dear to my heart, such as emotional recovery, healing and astrology while posting up some of the prose/poems which are an outgrowth of my labours with life, love and relationships. If anything I write touches you I would be so pleased to hear for the purpose of reaching out and expressung ourselves is hopefully to connect with each other and find where our souls meet.

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