I personally know how easily my fear of abandonment gets triggered when interactions with Scott become heated. Just last week I had a very scary interaction with him where he was mistakenly doubting my love and I just experienced that horrendous psychic flooding of chemicals which often leads me to just split off or over react. On last Thursday I was able to hold my ground lovingly and then I just got down on the floor in a ball and cried my heart out while Jasper sat guard over me hip to hip!! (My sweet sweet boy.) I did take a break and later he calmed down and apologised but the fear I felt at the time was probably overwhelming as he was unconsciously making me hold his as well (as others do to the emotional sensitive when they are triggered too).
Anyway I just came across this article online about the subject thought it may be of help to some followers :