If like me you suffer from anxiety or anxious or insecure attachment issues you may find the above resource very helpful. I have not read the entire book yet but its already given me so many tools not only to manage my anxieties in relationship but just anxiety in general. There are a number of practical exercises you can do and the authors explain the way to recognise triggers, ask in a caring way for a time out without triggering your partner’s own issues, self soothe then find a way to reconnect from a calmer space where you can speak from your heart rather than from your trauma or defences.
Those of us with anxious attachment and Complex PTSD can really struggle to hold onto loving relationships and relate in a loving way. This is a resource that actually gives strategies that are useful and will help you to understand more about how anxious attachment affects your relationships. I highly recommend it.