I just came across an article on 7 signs of emotional neglect and was interested to read the following on perfectionism, it explained my Mum’s history to me, one she bequeathed to my sister and I…
If you are a perfectionist, you could have been neglected emotionally. Think about it this way, if your loved ones neglected you as a child, you could have tried almost anything to get their attention, even striving for perfection to be noticed. As an adult, this perfectionism grew and maybe, by now, you’ve become obsessed with this behavior.
Are you a neat freak, need everything to be organized perfectly, and even require perfectionist friends? You could still be trying to validate your existence. Be careful.
Links to the article can be found here:
Emerging From The Dark Night 