Since we are unable to successfully control life, we suffer in proportion to our losses. The only path through and beyond this suffering…. is the relinquishment of the desire to control, to let be, to go with the wisdom implicit in the transience of nature. This release is the proper cure for neurosis, for then one is not split off from nature, including ourselves, who are part of nature.
Such a relinquishment does not render us a slave to loss, but rather a participant in the act of letting go. Only letting go can bring peace and serenity. But as well know, the ego’s prime officer is Captain Security, ably supported by Sergeant Control. Who among us has “seen through”… and affirmed with the heart the idea of “not my will, but Thine?”..
It seems of our nature to long for attachment, for home. Somewhere, in the collusion between heart, which longs for permanency and connection, and the brain, which acknowledges separation and loss, there is a place for us to find our personal psychology… (without the need to be an eternal victim.)
Central to the enlargement of consciousness is the acknowledgement that the constancy of life is its impermanence. Indeed transiency is the expression of the life force itself.
James Hollis, Swamplands of the Soul
Emerging From The Dark Night 