Some people just get us. Some people are an energy of love that you can just feel. When you are with them your heart opens and you feel your energy lift. They don’t subtly or so unsubtly invalidate you or put you down. When you have not known this kind of pure love and open heartedness it can be so easy to distrust. And we sensitive ones do need to be careful at times who we open up to as a lot of people may blame or shame us. But still I do think there are also those out there who recognise our high sensitivity.
I often wonder how much less sensitive we may have been in a better or more self protective way if this side of us was seen, acknowledged or valued earlier on. Traumatic things hit us hard and Peter Levine, the trauma expert makes the point that how we are treated immediately after trauma affects how well we recover. In my own case I was on the other side of the world so far from family support when my second trauma hit and I escaped there as to be around their energy felt violent emotionally to me. After the accident I struggled to find a safe space then freaked out and came back home. It was a night mare.
I retreated alone and then got into a relationship with someone who brutalised me when I showed grief. I justified how he treated me and kept going back because I did not know I needed more. I was not kind to myself and had never learned really to value who I was and my capacity to feel. I put down alcohol and smoking at 31 as I really wanted to live in a kinder way but that was just the beginning of understanding how the energies of others around me affected me and how I was responding. As I look back over the past six years of being back near family I see I have struggled to maintain my own boundaries and self care with all the other traumas that followed especially the attempted suicide of my other sister.
Not one family member has chose to do any emotional work at all. I try to point things out but it is often like trying to lead a horse to water. And I am beginning to see that by myself I suffer in a family at times where feelings and sensitivities have to be so hidden and that is physically so repressed and non demonstrative. I see how my living sister uses exercise herself to connect in the absence of the love and holding that is really needed. These days I only see one or two friends who I can really connect with and often I think my body is suffering and crying out for holding care and love. Maybe it is time for me to start to seek out some kind of touch therapy and holding, I have been considering Reiki.
I have often come to grief with holding therapies. I had the accident after a session of cranio sacral. The second time I tried it I freaked out with the therapist and she shamed and invalidated me so much I left, letting someone into your body when you have suffered traumas to it and violations of it is fraught with peril and such big feelings but at the moment I think it may help to release some of what my tissues have had to hold so deep inside over past years.
I am sharing about this today and the synchronicity with astrology is that today Mercury is in the body ruled sign of Virgo which relates to earth mother and is coming up to oppose natal Chiron in the seventh which is all my wounds in relationships from the past and maybe that is healing now as on WordPress I now seem to have made so many good connections with people who truly validate and understand. It helps me to write about all of this and what others post really prompts and awakens my own healing. In this way I make connections in all kinds of ways and that is the work of Mercury who travels and links us. Today I as I was walking I was imagining the entire world as a web of interconnected energies. Who we meet with and connect with on any day has such a powerful impact on us for good or ill and surely there people out there who we could really gel with but just never get to meet. In any case here is where I get to share and pour out the way I feel and I am so grateful for that.