There is something I want to say to the scapegoats out there, those of you never felt like you quite belonged in the family and it comes out of having seen my niece yesterday and knowing the struggle she has with her own family.
You probably didn’t feel like you belonged because you didn’t, not really, not deep, deep down in your soul to that particular family. Its not because of anything you did wrong, you are not a ‘bad’ person whatever they would have your believe, no matter how they dismiss you or invalidated you for being you.
Know this : you didn’t feel like you belonged because your home truly was elsewhere. Maybe you felt an identification with the moon and the stars or animals or a bird or the wind or something else, something that reminded you of softness and poetry and the music and rhythm you felt to be dancing in your soul far beyond the soulless life and existence of your family where such music wasn’t recognised.
Your being scapegoated or sidelined or bullied wasn’t about you at all, it was about the precious, unique or special qualities others could not understand or learned a long time ago to despise in themselves, things they feared. You were not put on earth to be the white sheep and to be approved of by them, but it was a real wound to be rejected, sidelined or minimised. A wound you must learn not to take too seriously!
Know this : you are a deeply spiritual being who chose to come to this earth to learn how precious and loved you really are by life. Don’t stop searching until you find those who speak the same language, there are a lot of us out there, don’t let the pain and misunderstanding others put in you become a poison that hurts, spit it out and find your own tribe and even if you have to walk alone for a time, know that deep within you are loved and are on the right path, follow your heart and never let its truth be distorted, shamed or vacated.