Don’t cry alone, too long

I am sitting at my computer which has had the internet down for just over two days.  I was held back from posting some pieces I wrote and as I contemplate sharing this one I am feeling some deep ambivalence.  I have spent so much time alone with my pain.  In later years I have learned to reach out and share it.  I know often we can only tap into the deep, true, real pain alone, at other times I am resonating with the pain and sadness of others and lately I am also feeling such peace and joy due to a year in which I have found support, mirroring, understanding and empathy unlike in any other for expressing and moving through sadness, anger and pain.  The thoughts in this poem come from this more optimistic place.  Its only one version of truth.  I hope it resonates.

Don’t sit inside and cry too long alone.

I know it is important

to enter your darkness,

especially when everyone says

you must be bright,

but you must find a way

to reach out within it,

to connect,

even though it feels as if

you are so alone

and your heart is tearing in two

and the weight upon you

is so heavy

don’t let yourself drown alone here


I have learned a little about this,

I know how

just one step forward

will allow the tears

or the sadness

or the anger to move

so that it is no longer strangling you,

smothering you completely.

It may be dangerous

to reach out

to the wrong person for sure

and you know the fear

and pain

and disappointment

of that

but I want you to know

you can survive even this

and find ways

to no longer be undone.

Not everyone will understand

and yet still

you must find the courage

to find your voice.

 Sitting inside all alone

and crying too

will not bring you home.

The well is deep

and at times you must

navigate nearly to the ends of it

but there is a reprieve

and there is still out there

a place of sunshine

where you can feel warm,



and whole.

Trust me

I know.

Published by: emergingfromthedarknight

"The religious naturalist is provisioned with tales of natural emergence that are, to my mind, far more magical than traditional miracles. Emergence is inherent in everything that is alive, allowing our yearning for supernatural miracles to be subsumed by our joy in the countless miracles that surround us." Ursula Goodenough How to describe oneself? People are a mystery and there is so much more to us than just our particular experiences or occupations. I could write down a list of attributes and they still might not paint a complete picture pf Deborah Louise and in any case it would not be the full truth of me. I would say that my purpose here on Wordpress is to express some of my random experiences, thoughts and feelings, to share about my particular journey and explore some subjects dear to my heart, such as emotional recovery, healing and astrology while posting up some of the prose/poems which are an outgrowth of my labours with life, love and relationships. If anything I write touches you I would be so pleased to hear for the purpose of reaching out and expressung ourselves is hopefully to connect with each other and find where our souls meet.

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3 thoughts on “Don’t cry alone, too long”

  1. This definitely resonates and is so heartfelt. I am only starting to try reaching out when I have those really black-hole moments. I am finding that when I reach out, it dissipates somewhat but like you I believe that I sometimes need to go into the darkness and feel it to heal it alone. Maybe a balance of both is what needed so that we don’t stay down too long and disconnect. I can relate very strongly to the ‘heaviness’ of the dark feelings when they take hold and also the feeling of being strangled with no voice. I feel very little again in these moments and want to hide rather than reach out. I did in fact reach out to the wrong person (my ex-husband) who was so wounded himself. But I am hopeful that with new practice I can use my powerful instincts to reach out to the right people as I have started doing.


  2. Yes, it is about balance, isn’t it. When our trust was broken that must have taught us it wasn’t safe to reach out and it takes time and mistakes to learn who we can trust with this and who we can’t. Thanks so much for your comments.


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